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Ezine #55 How to keep focus & do it all
November 05, 2012
How to keep focus -- and do it all!
Keep focus! Do it all! This topic is very close to my heart right now, because I’ve gotten seriously into social networking – not just with a personal Facebook page, but now I'm managing a FB page for untwist your thinking I’m Linked In, tweeting and twittering joined Google + on Pinterest and even joined a Twibe.
I’ve become busy in this viral world -- and I’m loving it -- but I have a real life too. So how, between work and family obligations, not to mention the media distractions, and everything else -- how do you keep focus?
Robin Sharma who’s studies productivity, says that we’re interrupted every 11 minutes. That's totally crazy!! What's even crazier is that I heard that someone found a person on Craigslist to slap him every 11 minutes -- just so he'd stay on track. True story!
I'm not suggesting this to anyone, however, I'm recommending some of Sharma's tips and I’ve added my own as well. Here are the major tips to keep focus so you can do it all.
Do it – Taking action. This is usually on the bottom of a list, but Sharma says with productivity it’s the first. To be productive, there is no right time, or conditions. So don’t wait for anything to change. It won’t. Whatever you intend on doing, don’t put it off. Start now.
Set Goals. Write down your goals. State your intentions clearly, point by point. But, once they’ve been written, don’t put them away. Post them in a place where you can see them daily. This keeps you focused.
Keep a Routine. A routine not only keeps you on track, but it’s also a great stress reliever. So get up, go to sleep, eat, at the same times and follow a daily routine, even on weekends and I guarantee this will raise your productivity.
Set Boundaries If you’re busy, say so. Set priorities. You can’t jump to everyone’s requests and still be productive. Set your priorities and boundaries and others have to understand that you have a right to say ‘no’.
Don’t Micromanage You may be good at what you do, but you can’t be the best in everything. You can only do so much. So do what you do best and allow others to take over.
Drinking Reduce /Alcohol consumption. Drink plenty of water. Stay hydrated and you’ll be more energetic. Your energy will translate into being more productive.
Time has value Standing in line-ups, at super markets, banks, movies, restaurants waste not only waste valuable time, but adds additional stress in an already hectic day. To be more productive, don’t frequent these places during peak hours. If possible, always do your business on off hours.
Media time As much as you’re tempted, don’t check e-mails texts and social networking sites many times during the day. Set specific times for this. Prioritize your responses so you’re not spending your valuable time unnecessarily. These sites can be a huge waste of time and continuous checking can become
Q I am 24 yr old mother of two. My boyfriend (the father of both my children) is a recovering alcoholic – one year sober. We have been together almost 3 years.
For the past few months he has been working constantly, his regular 9-5 job through the week and then working side jobs after work. If for some reason he is not working, or at an AA meeting, he is out talking with someone from program or golfing with a sober friend. Needless to say, he doesn’t spend much time at home.
With two small children I am beyond stressed and am beginning to resent him for leaving me with all the responsibility of taking care of the boys. I know this is important for him in his recovery but is there some way to strike a balance?
How can I bring this up and execute a plan for this to happen without causing an argument. I’m also very sure he will claim that he needs to be working non-stop in order to pay the bills (which is not the case since he worked less and spent more on booze, etc. and we were able to pay the bills just fine). What is going on with him at this time in his recovery? He doesn’t talk to me about it.
A Your boyfriend's behavior is common for someone new to recovery -- and 1 year is still very new. During the 1st year, he's encouraged to take care of his sobriety first, because if he loses that, you, the kids and everything he holds dear to him will be gone. Your boyfriend has been focusing on that.
He also has to work the 12 steps with his sponsor and because life changes, he has to continue to go through the steps. Here is
more information on that Maintaining sobriety is a lifetime process, but with time he will probably do to less meetings. It would benefit you to go to Al-Anon, which is for family members of alcoholic/addicts. You'll not only get more of an understanding of the program, but you'll develop a support system for yourself.
What keeps you going?
Relaxation 'Power Naps'
(CD or tape)
Four 15-minute deep relaxation sessions for that mid-day 'power nap'.
You can download these MP3 -- as well as learn hypnosis for free. Here's where you'll find them Because stress leads to all kinds of addictive behavior, learn to relax and enjoy peace of mind!!
How to avoid holiday meltdowns :)
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