Making fitness goals stick can be challenging, but all goals start with good intention. You tell yourself, you’ll exercise more, eat well, stay on a diet …You hire a trainer, sign up for the gym, and get into action – but then slack off – no matter how well intentioned -- and this same behavior happens whether you're an emotional eater, a codependent, or addicted to any behavior.
This ezine is based on fitness goals – but these same tips can be used for any goals you want to reach to change your behavior. These tipsachieve changes for life
1) Your Feelings – ask yourself why you WANT to get fit. You can say, to be healthy, but dig deeper than that. Visualize yourself feeling better? Will you have more energy, become less inhibited……Write these things down and let them become reminders when you get off track.
2) Expectations – Have realistic expectations. Staying fit will improve your life, but it won’t change your life. If you expect to be a new person, you’re setting yourself up for failure.
3) Baby Steps --If you don’t see immediate physical results, find other changes. Look at your energy level. Find the positive about what you've done. Do you have a better disposition or sleep better? Your body will change if you keep at it.
4) Commitment If you hire a trainer –-- go—-no excuses. Have a home exercise program? Set a time and make a commitment to do exercise at that time. Make a commitment to yourself.
5) Get support. Tell others that you are changing your life-style. Don’t buy unhealthy food so you won’t be tempted
Make a healthy eating plan.
5) Get support. Tell others that you are changing your life-style. Don’t buy unhealthy food so you won’t be tempted. /Make a healthy eating plan. Get others on board, or if you like groups, or internet chat-rooms, join -- it’s helpful.
6) Negativity. Don’t put yourself down. There are times when you’ll be highly motivated and other times not so much… this is normal. Push past the slump and just keep at it. Negative thinking will bring you right back to your old habits.
7) And most importantly – if you have a ‘slip’ get right back on track – changing behavior is a life-time commitment
and you have to stay positive
Keep at it -- one day at a time -- and if you slip, don't drop your goals only to pick them up a next month or next year. Take charge of your behavior and
eventually you'll change
Q & A
My 75 year old mother is mentally ill and a alcoholic. All she does is drink, smoke and sleep. She also has screaming fits and refuses to live in the same house as my father.
My father urgently needs a hip operation and he can't take care of her since he'll be bedridden
My father enables her
She thinks she'll be OK alone while my father is laid up, as long as he stockpiles her with cigarettes, alcohol and food. She refuses services like meals on wheels, etc.
I would like to assist, but it's a 9 hour drive to their house. My brother, who lives three hours away and local neighbors are going to check up on her.
I feel badly that I can't go there, but I don't think it's right to sacrifice my health. I'm 52, have PTSD, sinus headaches and back problems.
Should I feel guilty for not going? I also feel guilty that I will feel better when my mother is dead, but I can't help thinking that way. She is a miserable person and her screaming at me made me numb.
This is a difficult situation, however, if you are unable to help out, there is no sense feeling guilty about it. Guilt will not change the situation, but don't ignore what’s going on. Stay involved by keeping in touch with your brother, as well as the neighbors and make plans to visit your parents at a more convenient time.
It would help you to attend
ACOA (adult child of alcoholics) meetings
to overcome your anger, frustration and resentment. You can't change your mother, but you have to live with her memory, and your anger long after she passes. Hopefully you'll find peace.