Stop Food Cravings

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Journaling

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"No man in the world has more courage than the man who can stop after eating one peanut.~Channing Pollock

This quote makes me smile, but if you’re an emotional eater like I am, you can relate, but it’s not funny at all.

This month: cravings.

However, if food is not your downfall and you have other addictions, there are similar cravings in all addictions – and once we’re hard wired to an obsessive behavior, we’re hard wired for life, but we can change.

There are areas of our brains that are responsible for memory and the pleasure that we associate with our addiction --and that’s where cravings come from.

Now, since this zine about food addiction -- when we are stressed or anxious we crave the foods to calm us down, and food becomes an obsession Funny how we never crave fruits and vegetables to relieve anxiety -- always carbs. Carbohydrates boost the serotonin level in our brains and this calms us.

So, you’ve finished supper and you’re watching TV and you’re not hungry, but somehow your mind keeps wondering to the pantry, to the chocolate chip cookies that you bought for the family. And you swore that you would not touch them, and you convince yourself, that if you just took one --so you get up and take one, and you get up again, and then what the heck, you the whole bag – gone. You’re thinking of nothing as you keep eating, but when you stop, you feel really bad…..and you’re stuffed.

Food cravings: How to kick them

drug addiction and eating disorder or other compulsive behaviors – when you see or know someone who lost weight or stopped drinking ‘cold turkey’ and you can’t do the same thing, you’re likely to give up on yourself.

That’s the topic for October: Controlling Behavior: Stop Being A Control Freak. Here's how to stop.

Awareness: As with every behavior, you have to notice when you’re doing it. A good test is to ask people if they find you controlling. Also, notice when you’re demanding too much of yourself.

Patterns: There are certain times or certain people which will put you in 'control mode'. Notice your patterns because they repeat.

Observation: Ask yourself what being in control does for you. Are you setting the standard for yourself, so you can look down on others? Do you need to keep a tight reign on yourself because otherwise you’ll be ‘out of control’? (this is particularly true for all addictions)

Self-importance When we think that the world revolves around us, we feel entitled to control it. We also hold judgments about ourselves and set really high standards because we're afraid that others will be judging us, as hard as we judge ourselves. People seldom give us much thought.

Perfection: Being attentive to details is OK, but when you’re driving yourself and everyone around you crazy because of your perfectionism, it’s out of line. You are not perfect and neither is anyone else. Aiming for perfectionism is a losing battle.

Trust: If you have to control a person, you don’t trust them. A secure person can ‘live and let live’.

Attitude: Change your attitude. Understanding others as well as yourself is more important than controlling them – If you’re too hard on yourself, it will affect your health. If you’re hard on others, you can be

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Practice: Like everything else changing behavior takes time -- and you have to practice. Copy these tips and refer to them. Practice, practice, practice – the more you practice the more you change.

Accept: If someone loses weight by staying continuously on a diet and you’ve had difficulty, don’t give up. It may be good for them but not you. Accept yourself the way you are -- and get back on that diet.

Tips

Be aware of your controlling behavior – with yourself and others

Don’t repeat your patterns of control.

Ask yourself what control does for you.

Others are most likely aren't judging you.

Perfectionism is a losing battle.

Relationships are built on trust --not control.

Understand and appreciate yourself.

Catch yourself controlling and practice the new behavior.

Accept yourself and others

If you must be ‘in control’ of everyone, they will start lying or manipulating to get out of your control. If you’re too hard on yourself, you’ll eventually sabotage yourself due to anxiety. Escaping from anxiety is one of the roots of addictive behavior When you feel you can handle what life throws at you, you are truly in control.

Q & A

Q

We’ re going on a cruise with my son, who has been at Betty Ford Clinic for the past 10 months. We’re taking him, my other son and his friend and there will be drinking and partying on board. My other son and his friend both drink and they won’t stay away from the bars.

My alcoholic son has the problem and has got to be strong, but I want to help him. He was a heavy drinker and never knew when to stop.

This might be a stupid question, but will he ever be able to drink again? Thank you for your help

A

Although your son has been in rehab for 10 months, he is still very new to sobriety and he won't be in a safe environment.

No one can make an alcoholic drink, however, your son will be fighting all his demons on this cruise.

Your son has to handle his addiction with the tools that he learned at Betty Ford and only he can do this, however, you can find out if there are AA meetings on the cruise and if there are, suggest that he attend.

If he has a sponsor, he can call or e-mail him and call his counselor at the center, if he's struggling with cravings to drink. He learned all the tools in rehab, but the 'ball is in his court'.

Right now, for you son, drinking is out of the question. However, many heavy drinkers can take an occasional drink eventually.

I hope this information is helpful.

Bev

Just because you came from a dysfunctional family doesn't mean you have to pay for it for the rest of your life.

There are so many urban legends floating around -- "a fat child becomes a fat adult", "I come from a family of alcoholics, of course I get drunk". Great excuses, but if you're not happy with you're behavior, your not doomed. When you change your outlook you learn new behaviors, which change your life.
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Next Month

Stop those awful cravings and get to your goal.

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Bev

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