How Signs of Stress Work For You

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Signs of stress work for you as well as against you. Stress isn't necessarily a bad thing. In fact, a good healthy dose of it can cause you to re-evaluate the direction your life is going and alert you when things are going off course. It can allow you to get a better handle on things before they spiral out of control. Here are a few tips to consider:

Stress can help you better understand your body and the wants and needs that are being neglected in your life.

For example, did you know that exercise is a natural way to deal with difficult situations? Instead of feeling stressed about a problem, why not engage in some heart-pounding physical activity? Not only will it clear your mind, it will also help you to get in better shape. You'll look and feel better which will give your self-confidence a boost. After a few minutes of sweating, you'll problems will be the last thing on your mind. That's because your body will be producing endorphins, which are chemicals that help elevate your mood. The reverse would be to escape into compulsive overeating or other negative behaviors.

Stress allows you know your limitations

We often bite off more than we can chew. We say "Yes" to people when we really mean "No." We take on projects that tax us mentally and physically. We schedule life around appointments. We forget to take care of ourselves. Stress serves as a wake-up call because it allows us to recognize our limitations, as long as you stop and think.

Stress allows us to know that we cannot squeeze another minute out our schedules and still expect to have an ounce of quality in our lives. When we reach our breaking point, we need an escape. The latest compulsive behavior is

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Stress helps you focus on the big picture

Stress gives us permission to lighten our loads and pay attention to the things that really matter -- but that’s only if you use it effectively. Stress makes it easier for us to understand why our current situations have come to be. It encourages you to slow down and really focus your energy on solving problems. Without stress, few of us would be able to know what we want and don't want out of life. We would be complacent about how we go about our business and that's not good for anyone. Stress can give us the courage to try something different. Although stress is often thought to be detrimental, it gives us the go ahead to really take inventory of our lives. In fact, it helps us to ask the eternal question, "Why do I feel the way that I do?" Without stress, we would still go full throttle and forget about the things that matter. Believe it or not, the signs of stress can work for you. It tells you to calm down and relax. When you learn to relax you will handle your life with confidence, on a daily basis.

Q & A

Q My 19 yr old son has depression. He started taking Zoloft and sees a therapist. He has a problem with alcohol and binge drinks heavily every weekend He admits he has a problem but isn’t sure he wants to quit, because it relaxes him. He also had a very serious bullying problem when he was younger.

Last weekend he drank so much he came home full of rage, broke windows and beat a man badly. I was shocked! He’s very aggressive towards his friends as well as others.

He will see his doctor in a month and that is a long time to wait. He wants to be without alcohol and I think he will do it temporarily, until he forgets that horrible weekend. What can I do and what he should do?


The manufacturer of Zoloft does not recommend drinking while on the medication. Zoloft and alcohol act upon similar chemicals in the brain, which means that Zoloft could intensify the effects of the alcohol. “If a person chooses to drink alcohol while taking this medication, he or she should only consume light to moderate amounts of alcohol. If you do drink alcohol, do not drink alcoholic beverages at the same time you take your dose of Zoloft."

I suggest that you go with your son to his doctor's appointment. He may not be telling the doctor the full extent of his drinking and you should have this on record. In the mean time, suggest that he goes to AA get a sponsor and work the 12 steps Get Used to It

This enables you to move on.

Surround yourself with other positive people. If everyone you know and associate yourself with is a negative, you will be too. Positivity is infectious, but so is negativity. Find people whose attitudes inspire you and then try to emulate them. If you can't seem to meet anyone new in your city, try an online community.

Remember "A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step." Change can be frightening. Taking it one step daily that pushes you out of your comfort zone and gets you thinking in a positive and proactive way. Do this for 30 days and you've got yourself a new habit.

Proactive thinking and having a positive mental attitude is all that you need to be successful in life. Consider it one of your most important attributes and it's available to all of us. The power that you possess is astounding.

Train your mind to be proactive -- not reactive. This will give you the freedom you need to realize your dreams and achieve your goals. Everything is available to you when you change the way you think



I’ve been with my boyfriend for 10 years and we have a 2 year old son. Over the last 10 months he’s been drinking 4 nights out of 7 nights a week, and won’t go to bed until there is nothing left. The next day he’s horrible.

Lately he has been disappearing --not coming home all weekend and he’s been fired from work. He blames me, saying I don’t give him affection, but when he lies about where he’s been, and spends all his money on drink how can I?

I’ve left him today. I’m exhausted and can’t take anymore. I pay for everything and all he ever wants to do is drink. He’s on anti-depressants and he says he doesn’t take them, but I’m afraid that he will harm himself after a binge. What should I do?


It sounds like your boyfriend's drinking has gotten worse and now it's out of control However, by blaming you for losing his job etc., he's not taking responsibility for it. This is called denial. And the more excuses he finds, the less he blames himself as well as his drinking -- and an alcoholic wants to drink.

He lies, doesn't come home, is irritable and doesn't contribute financially to the family. In reality, you are living in an abusive relationship and for the sake of your son and your sanity, you did the right thing -- you left. This may be a wake-up call, for him to get help.

In reality, you've been living as a 'single mom' for quite awhile and it's not easy, but at least you don't have to be angry and upset by his behavior.

If you feel guilty, or want to go back, Al-anon meetings can be helpful to stay strong. The members provide a good support system when you're under pressure.

Although you fear that he may mix medication with alcohol, you can’t prevent it. You've done the best thing for you and your son by leaving. This allows you to get your life on track and move on to a better one.

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