Do you try to hold on to your dreams, only to quit and start over, again and again?
When we keep trying and do the same thing over and over change won't happen. Einstein has been quoted as saying that this was a definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over, expecting to get a different result -- and anyone with an addictive behavior can relate – another diet, just one drink. Are all of us insane – of course not. It's about our twisted thinking.
Our mind directs our thoughts and we behave accordingly. Although you have a dream, you don’t hold on because you set yourself up by thinking the way you thing. This prevents you from change. So it’s time to untangle your brain and
stop thoughts preventing change.
7 Obstacles That Prevent Success.
Quitting: If you truly believe in something that you want to do, you have to keep at it. It’s so easy to let negative thinking stop you from realizing your dreams. Don’t expect ‘overnight success’, because it seldom happens. Henry Ford failed five times and was left broke before he succeeded in founding the Ford Motor Company. Walt Disney was fired by a newspaper editor because he ‘lacked imagination and had no good ideas.’ Bill Gates dropped out of Harvard – not exactly a model for success. If you’re committed, don’t find excuses to quit.
Sensitivity: Just because you think the way you do, doesn’t mean that everyone thinks like you. Don’t be so hard on yourself. We are our worst critic. We’re usually harder on ourselves than anyone else would be.
Exaggeration: Problems are not ‘larger than life’. Break the issue into increments and handle them ‘one step at a time’.
Hopelessness: Nothing remains the same. If things are not going well right now, it doesn’t mean that the situation will remain this way ‘forever’. Feeling hopeless leads to negativity and depression.
Busy: We never have enough time in the day, yet we waste so much of it. All of us are guilty – watching too much TV, staying on the
No Focus We’re constantly multitasking and jumping from one thing to the other. If you’re focusing on the task at hand, don’t take on something else until you're done with it. Set boundaries with others and say ‘no’ or ‘I’m busy right now or I’ll get back to you’. You can’t be all things to all people.
Stress: Are you edgy, angry, frustrated or impatient? When you’re ‘uptight’, your mental and physical health is at risk. There is a mind-body connection.
Only when you’re less stressed, can you think positively, be more patient with others, as well as with yourself and have the determination and resilience to hold on to your dreams.
I have been
for over 20 years and I am 44 now. Alcohol abuse runs on my father's side of the family. I have tried meds, AA, church, and therapy. I really need your help. Do you have any suggestions? I am desperate. This is ruining my life. I know you're an expert in this field. Is there anything else I can do? I’m so depressed.
The longer you've been drinking and the more failure you've experienced the more depressing it gets. However, you should also know that alcohol is a depressant. Also, although alcoholism is in your family, the problem isn't totally genetic. You may have a predisposition to alcoholism, but many
children with alcoholic parents.
are not necessarily alcoholics.
Although you've been to AA & therapy, you may have not been ready to change, so now could be the right time for you. Go back.
It may be helpful to see a therapist who is an expert in addiction, and you can have a full drug/alcohol assessment as well as a psychological assessment based on your addictive behavior. There may be other issues that trigger your response to 'self medicate' with alcohol.
If your life is unmanageable a rehab is another option. Not all of them are expensive, but you have to do the groundwork.
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Don't be discouraged! As they say in AA, relapse is part of recovery -- one day at a time.