Addict Boyfriend Moves In

by Anonymous
(USA)

My addict (alcohol/marijuana) boyfriend claims to be trying to quit. He is going to anger management but he's not in a 12 step program.

His house will be in foreclosure, because he has not been paying the mortgage for some time. He's been working, but not earning much. We want to live together live in MY house when he moves out, but I am not sure that he can afford to pay the rent and 1/2 utilities I would normally charge.

How much should I charge him to live with me?



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It's possible for your boyfriend to live a sober life without going to a 12 step program, but you must consider the length of his sobriety and you also must not to enable him.

Once he lives with you, it will be hard to get him out. You won't be able to change the rules about his sobriety or if he's unable to pay the rent money. So before you move in together, take this in consideration.

When you're figuring out how much he should contribute, you have to first decide out how much you need. If you need someone who contributes 1/2 of the expenses, it's best that he moves in when he can afford it.

If however, you're OK with it, he should contribute half of his earnings along with some contribution to the food, entertainment etc. He has to demonstrate some commitment, not only to his sobriety, but to creating a life with you.

I hope this is helpful,

Bev