Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Works

Cognitive behavioral therapy works to change your thinking. Discover the twisted thinking that makes you depressed, angry, impulsive and alters your mood and behaviors.

When we’re down, we think negative thoughts. These thoughts reflect how we feel and that determines the way we act. So it stands to reason, that how we behave depends on how we think. No one can ‘make you feel’ anything. We determine our thoughts by ourselves. In other words only you can think the way you do – and there’s a positive as well as a negative – so when you catch yourself with these negative forms of thinking, turn them around.

Cognitive behavioral therapy was pioneered by Aaron T. Beck MD. Test these forms of twisted thinking on yourself:

All-or-nothing thinking:

You see things as black or white. There are no grey areas. If it’s not perfect, you see it as a total disaster. ex. You’re dieting and ate a piece of cake. Then you say “what the heck, I’ve blown it”. You’re mad at yourself and you get so upset that you eat the entire cake, feel sick and beat yourself up some more.

Over-generalization:

You use words as ‘always’ or ‘never’ when you think dark thoughts. ex. You’ve just broken up with a girl friend and you feel you’ll never find anyone as wonderful – and you get even more depressed.

Mental filter.

You obsess over a negative detail and dwell on it. You can obsess about it for days, weeks, months, driving you to feel worse and worse.

Discounting the Positive:

If you do a good job you say that it wasn’t good enough or that anyone could have done it. This makes you feel inadequate.

Jump to conclusions:

You interpret things negatively without facts to support it. This includes

mind reading. (no one can read someone else’s mind). Talk to the person clarify the situation.

Fortune-telling: telling yourself that you’re going to blow it, or that you’ll never be any good, when you’re doing well..

Magnification: You exaggerate your problems or shortcomings or minimize your positive attributes.

Emotional reasoning:

You believe that the way you feel is the way things actually are. ex. You feel hopeless therefore you must be hopeless. One thing has nothing to do with the other.

Should/must statements:

Very important. Thinking ‘should’, ‘ought’, ‘must’ and ‘have to’, make you beat yourself up for not doing the right thing. These words provoke you to rebel by doing the opposite of what you ‘should’ do in the first place. Leave these words out of your thoughts, and create positive strategies.

Labeling:

These are negative abstractions leading to anger, anxiety, frustration and low self-esteem. ex. You label yourself an idiot, a jerk, stupid etc. You probably label others as well – a loser, a jerk etc. This makes you angry and hopeless.

Personalization and blame:

You hold yourself responsible for something that you can’t control. ex. You’re child comes home complaining that he has no friends .and you interpret that you’re a bad mother. Or the opposite. Blame others. ex. The reason that I had an affair is because my wife is such a nag.

And how many times have you heard someone blame everybody but themselves for their problems?

Twisted thinking affects all of us at one time or another, but if your thoughts are usually twisted, they can cause, depression, stress, anxiety, anger, fear and many types of addictive behaviors.

Notice your negative thinking. Observe your negative mood. Turn your thoughts around and develop a ‘feel good’ strategy for yourself.

This is harder to do than it appears. In cognitive behavioral therapy the therapist helps you notice your negativity (AA calls this 'stinking thinking') and you learn to develop a more positive attitude.

Using cognitive behavioral therapy techniques gives you a new outlook on life. This is a process, so don't be too demanding on yourself. It takes time.

These strategies work for both adults as well as teens - even if you're using medication. Actually cognitive behavioral therapy techniques and medication often go hand-in hand. Medication frequently can be reduce and even eliminated.

If you have personal questions about cognitive behavioral therapy or other forms of treatment just ask.

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