Codependent in Everything

by Tara
(Bolder, USA)

So, I think I'm probably acting codependent in many facets of my life--my job, my friendships, my romantic relationship.

There's often a contradiction in my thoughts; I'm giving too much, and no one cares or is giving me credit for my effort. But also, I'm not good enough or not working hard enough and will be fired/ignored/dumped unless I step it up.

It's not that I don't realize that these thoughts don't make sense, I do. But I feel very strongly that this is true, regardless. I'm getting sick all the time. I’m run down from stress, and I'm worried that it's interfering with my ability to function.

How do I take the first step to get out of this place?


By reaching out, you’ve just taken the first step – you’ve identified the problem. The next step is to do something about it.

This is a self-esteem issue. You need to learn to set boundaries and learn to be more assertive as well.

Private counseling would help you. If you have insurance at work I suggest that you look into it. There may also be free counseling in your area.

Assertiveness training classes would also give you more confidence, and this new behavior would transfer into all areas of your life.

I hope you get the help you need.


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