Why Stop An Emotional Affair
If you share intimate thoughts, meetings in virtual space, or if you know that your partner would not approve and you lie and do it anyway, this and behavior like this, is having an emotional affair. You can tell yourself that it’s only friendship, because sex is not involved, but it’s not only sex that makes an affair. You are betraying your partner by lying, spending a considerable amount of time thinking and planning etc, instead of putting the energy into your real relationship. When you tell yourself you’re just talking to a “friend” you’re freeing yourself of guilt. You know that what you’re doing is wrong because a friendship should have no guilt. So ask yourself: Do you arrange special times for private meetings or talking on line? Do you keep information from your partner but share it with your friend? Are you excited and look forward to the time you’ll spend with your friend? Do you say or do things that you would never do with your partner? Any one of these signs tells you you're having an emotional affair. How to protect your relationship from an affair.There is nothing wrong with having a friendship with a member of the opposite sex, provided that it’s out in the open and you’re partner doesn’t mind. The problem arises when you or someone else realizes that you’re spending too much time and energy on the friend. If you notice that you’re look forward to chatting online, getting texts, or being on the computer with the particular person you must change your behavior to protect your relationship.Here are some tips: If there are problems in your current relationship, tell with your partner about it. Be aware that the internet can cause play games with your emotions, and it can be obsessive. Don’t spend
too much time on line
Flirtatious behavior can be misinterpreted. Be friendly not flirty. Don’t go out to bars with your single friends, if you’re not single. You’re asking for trouble. Don’t believe someone who tells you “everyone cheats”. It’s an excuse -- they do. If all your friends are divorced or having affairs, you’re more likely to be influenced by them. Before things become worse, get help as a couple or for yourself to
untwist your thinking
Coaching can help you put a spark back in your relationship. Coaching is not therapy
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