How To Help My Bro

by Brosef

I think my brother might have a really strong addictive personality for smoking and women. He falls ‘unthoughtfully’ for women and continues to do radical acts.

He shows no control over his life thus leaving responsibilities behind. He then continues on to smoke to forget all a out it.

He needs a job or to go to school or to do something for himself. What can I do?

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There’s not much you can do because he’s the one with the problem and it seems he doesn’t want to do anything about it.

Somehow, he’s able to continue his behavior without going to school or having a job. You don’t say how old he is, but if he’s dependent on your parents, they can demand that he change his life or they will not support him financially or any other way. Once that’s said however, they cannot retract it. They have to follow through.

You should not enable him by helping him out – giving him money, etc. Tell him, that you love him, but you disapprove of his lifestyle and unless he gets help, or turns his life around, you will not contribute to it.

When your brother finds he’s unable to get the support he needs to continue his behavior, he’ll be forced to change.