My boyfriend -- The Alcoholic/Addict

by Charlotte

My boyfriend is addicted to alcohol and weed.

He's stolen money for alcohol and drugs and he got sent to court for it. If he does it again then he will go to jail.

He's hurt me a couple of times when he’s been drunk and I need him to get help. We've split up over it before and I don't want it to happen again.

We've been together for nearly 2 years. Do you have any ideas what to do?


Help is available for your boyfriend but he must break his denial and DO something about it.

Your boyfriend has a problem, but so do you.

Ask yourself why you’re staying with an alcoholic/addict, a thief, and an abuser. This is most likely a codependent relationship.

If there are codependency groups in your area, go to them. Failing that, Al-anon is a program for families of alcoholic/addicts and codependency is often addressed in these groups.

If your boyfriend doesn’t shape-up and change, the situation will only get worse. There is no need to subject yourself to this. Get the support you need to build up your self-esteem and confidence.

Give your boyfriend an ultimatum, if he doesn’t get help, you have to move on.

All the best


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