Should I work on a relationship with a codependent?

by Richard

I am a recovering alcoholic – last drink 9-10-87. I have worked hard at staying sober each day.

I got myself in this relationship – almost 2 years ago – with a widow that was in a relationship with an alcoholic for 33 years. I did not realize that I was co-dependent, until I got to know this woman.

We can’t seem to get along. I get resentments about her. Can I work on having a good relationship with this woman or do I need to move on? Please HELP!!


You have not gotten along with this woman for the last 2 years and have resentments towards her, yet you still question whether you should move on.

If you were not codependent you would not ask this question.

This relationship is not working, and hasn’t worked for 2 years. It’s not likely that it will change. She’s stayed for 33 years in a dysfunctional relationship, so I’m quite sure she will not be the one to leave.

You must come to terms that you’re wasting your time, as well as your emotional energy. This won’t be easy for you, but I suggest you move on.

All the best to you


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