Tough Love Help

by Cora
(St. Ignace Country, USA)

My son is 23 yrs old. He has not paid his rent, is homeless, jobless and I am in my 1st yr of recovery from alcohol and other abusive situations.


He has a drinking and I believe drug problem. My daughter seems to think that I am healthy and strong enough for him to come and live with me. However he just doesn't want to change his life-style.

I feel as if I have enabled his behavior and can no longer do it. Are there any other tips on not feeling bad about his situation? Tough love hurts but I believe I am doing the right thing for him... Mom in tough spot -- just need support in this area of our lives.


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Be assured that as hard as it is, you must not continue to enable him. You can tell him you love him, but until he turns his life around, you will not help him in any way.

Right now the important thing is to take care of your sobriety. You can get additional support from the members at Al-anon. Many members are in your situation and you'll get information and encouragement to stand firm. It would be helpful to go to meetings in your area.


Bev

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