Supporting An Abusive Daughter

by Brenda
(Monroe, Ga. USA)

I am a mom and that is all I know. I have three children.

My life is always in turmoil. I have a daughter that is bi-polar and she is a bully...She has a felony under her belt. She uses me and when things don't go her way, she has an episode that includes, slamming doors, yelling knocking things off the tables and throwing things.

She has two children, a 17 yr old girl that I have supported and raised for 14 yrs and a boy 16 mos. old. I worry about him. When she goes into one of her fits, it scares him so, he runs to me with his hands out saying ‘be OK.’

He doesn't want to have anything to do with her at that time. She will not let me talk to her, she tells to shut up...I don't know how to help her....she acts like she hates me and calls my names (bitch, mother f_____. and so on…

She won’t work and help me, so here I am supporting the baby, too. I am disabled and live on a very low income and can hardly make it myself.

I want to ask her to leave, but she has nowhere to go and there's the baby. He needs a home. That's what I am trying to do for him but she is so ungrateful. I would like to put her out and keep the baby but I know how she would over-react....I'm In a very hard place. Don't know what to do.....

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Apr 04, 2012
May God watch over you and your Family
by: Rita Y

Hi Mam,
Your story has really saddend me. You know that
we all have a cross to bear,and your's isn't one
bit easy. You need to let the authorities know
whats going on in your household, maybe she can get counselling and get on medication. Also sit her down when she's calm & express your hurt and worries to her,dont hold nothing back. Let her know how hard life would be if she were to be kicked out,
let her know how much you love her & how happy you were when she was born... Tell her some stories about when she was a baby, how you've had to change her dippers and how you bathed her, and tell her, she didnt grow up this big alone, it was your love & undivided contribution shes here. Tell her how much mother's hurt when been called nasty names, above all, remind her when she was young, the only name she could trust to call out to was MUM...

I wish you all the best dear lady.

Jan 11, 2012
Outside Help Needed
by: Jenna

You need outside help. Perhaps your daughter is not taking her medication or has to have it adjusted. If you belong to a church, go and speak to your pastor.

There may also be groups for families of those with mental problems. They can be helpful. I know, I go to one because my son is schizophrenic.

Social services may also be helpful to find out what resources you have. You're living with too much craziness

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