Letting Go of a Relationship
Letting go of a relationship can be devastating. Sometimes it’s unexpected, but most of the time it is preceded by a gradual decline. But, if you stop and think about it, letting go can be a relief from the feeling of being isolated and shut out by the person you cared about.
Following a breakup, you’ll go through several phases, as you struggle with the grief and loss.
Here are a few tips to help in letting go of a relationship.
If you’re in a toxic relationship, sitting alone night after night while someone strings you along, walk away and
don’t go back
This may be difficult, and particularly hard
if you’re codependent
--but it’s the key to letting go of a relationship. You must let go of the anger you have with your ex, take responsibility for your own behavior, and learn from it. This is important so you won’t repeat those mistakes in a future relationship.
The quicker you move past your hurt and anger, and accept that it’s over, the faster the pain will leave and you’ll be ready to move on.
It’s not unusual to lose yourself in a relationship, especially if it spans the course of many years. Once you’ve past overcoming your fear of being alone, you’ll be free to establish a new relationship with yourself and reclaim your own identity. If you’ve gotten comfortable with knowing that there’s always someone there, understand that you can feel alone, even in a relationship. Renew your interests, make new friends, do the things that you might have avoided when you were a couple The new you won’t need to have someone to depend on, to enjoy a pleasant evening at home or dinner out.
Enjoy your own company, you’ll become stronger, more independent, and happier.
Cut All Contact
Resist the urge to call “just one more time.” Don’t stalk your ex’s social media sites or ask friends if they’ve heard anything about your ex. With any loss, grief gets easier over time, but your continued attempts to stay involved in your ex’s life, will only delay your healing. The stronger you’re rooted in the present, the longer you’ll remain in the past.
When you’re in the process of letting go of a relationship, it’s all too easy to look back on the past, remembering only the good times. This may be your perception and not the reality at all.
Most probably you’re blowing things out of proportion and obsessing on the
The mind is a powerful thing
If you fixate on what is no longer attainable, the story grows and can prevent you from creating a new life and be happy.
When you find yourself fixating on the happy days, remember what happened when you broke up. This will help you let go of the past, so that you can create a happier future.
Letting go of a relationship is never easy, but by focusing on the good things in your present life you’ll become stronger, and be able to find that will complement the new you.
Letting go is never easy, but by focusing on the good things in your present life you’ll become stronger, and be able to find a
that will complement the new you.
If you feel stuck and you’re having problems moving on, coaching or some counseling can help
Take a free 30 minute session and find out.
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